The Go-Giver.

Along with my physical transformation I have been working on my mental and spiritual transformation as well. In order to gain perspective and decide what it is I want and what it is I believe I have jumped into reading. I recently finished reading “The Go-Giver” by Bob Burg and John David Mann. This book was an eye opener. In order to be successful you need to know the five laws of stratospheric success. This book is pertaining to business success. However, I believe these five laws are just what we as humans should already be doing.

//Laws of Stratospheric Success://

  1. The Law of Value-Your worth is determined by how much you give in value than you take in payment.
  2. The Law of Compensation-Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them.
  3. The Law of Influence-Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place others interests first.
  4. The Law of Authenticity-The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself.
  5. The Law of Receptivity-The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving.

As I was reading this book I got to law #5 and felt a sense of guilt. I love to give. I give without expectation. What I want most in my life to give more, live more, and inspire more but when I think of receiving  I am filled with an overwhelming feeling of unworthiness. Even taking a compliment is hard for me. I struggle mentally sometimes with the blessings I have been given because I can’t bare the thought that so many people don’t have nearly what I do. Growing up we struggled so much. I watched my mother, a single mom with 2 little girls, work so hard and still have such a hard time. We lived in so many different places. From camper trailers to a school bus. In and out of other peoples homes. I remember a few times as a child being with my mother and sister in domestic violence shelters. That was our normal. About a year ago my husband, my two sweet boys and I moved into our new home after deciding to leave our very first home. My husband and I bought our first home in 2007. An older home from the 1950’s, just perfect for starting a family. Which we did and out grew our house. We spent eight years there. That is the longest I have ever lived anywhere. I love our new home but it is so much more than we “need” and is taking sometime to be okay with that. As a child struggle was normal so now as an adult who has been blessed so greatly I just cant help but think about all those that are struggling like my mom did and it saddens me.

The Law of Receptivity basically says in order for people to fulfill the giving part someone has to receive that gift. There is no giving without receiving. This got me thinking about my issues with receiving. The feeling I get when I have helped someone or when I have given someone a gift is the best feeling in the world. What if no one wanted my help or my gifts? That would hurt my heart. Who am to deny someones gift to me? Who wouldn’t be able to finish giving because I couldn’t receive? Would I be hurting someones heart? In concussion, I have decided I need to be more open and accepting of the blessings I have been given. I can’t expect to give and not let others give to me. The circle of giving

“Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart.”~Brene Brown

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